Attitude of Gratitude

“Give thanks in all circumstances; for this is God’s will for you.” – 1 Thessalonians 5:18

Have you ever had one of those seasons that it feels as if nothing is going right? I had the pleasure of having my gratitude tested recently, and honestly, I struggled to remain thankful. When life is throwing one curve ball after another it may appear that the easiest and only option is to give in, complain and admit defeat to the suckiness of life.

There is only one problem to that solution … there will be no progress.

We can not expect things to change if all we do is sit down in our struggle and do nothing but complain and be negative. It may feel good for a little while, but if you want to grow or to be able to have a better perspective on why life is the way it is there is one simple thing you can do.

If we chose to give thanks and start to recognize the things that we have to be grateful for we will see our state of mind start to change. Now, this isn’t a promise that the situation will change or even that you will be removed from the difficult season you’re in. However what will change is how you deal with the difficult and challenging curve balls that life throws your way.

So how do we do this? Well it starts by taking 5 minutes out of your day to reflect on this statement … “I am grateful for ….(fill in the rest)”. At first it may be hard to come up with one thing your grateful for, but if you woke up today, if you had a meal and have a safe place to call home you’re blessed!

Our gratitude habit will shift our attitude and this will help us go a long way. So I dare you to develop an attitude of gratitude!

If you need help starting this practice contact me at daredaughters@gmail.com

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A Real Woman Is …

What does it mean to be a woman?

When I reflect on the women in my life, each one is unique and different and does not fit perfectly into a one liner description. There is the single girl making her way in the adult world, balancing career, love life and figuring out who she is; there’s the young mom investing in the lives of her kids who fulfills the crucial role of bringing up the next generation; there is the driven career woman who refuses to put limits on what she can achieve; there is the retired and loving it woman who enjoys spending time on her hobbies and with her grandchildren.

Each one is a real woman, yet each are significantly different from one another. So how can we put a simple definition around what a real woman is? Our world has placed certain expectations and guidelines of what defines a woman and what she is capable of.  That she assumes certain roles and encompasses certain looks and attributes.

But confining and placing limitations was never what we were created for or how our lives are to be lived out. In Jeremiah 1:5 we see that “Before I(God) formed you in the womb I(God) knew you, before you were born I set you apart;” He knew before we came into existence that he had a purpose and a plan for our lives. This should encourage us to know that our creator has called us to great things – and that it will look different for each of us. Let us not compare ourselves with others – since God has set us apart! Embrace your individuality and encourage your fellow woman to embrace hers!

With this in mind, I encourage you to reflect on the thought that “A Real Woman is whatever She wants to be!”

Giving is Good for the Soul

It’s that time of year where giving is all we hear about, and there are calls for people to dig deep in their pockets and give to a cause. Well Dare Daughters decided to dig deep into it’s closets and use their connections. Through community members generous donations Dare Daughters has been able to provide clothing to marginalized women as this winter season is upon us. The donations were greatly appreciated.

It is a beautiful thing when you’re able to witness the joy of someone receiving a gift and with this in mind, we are continuously looking for ways to give back to the community through practical ways that will help others. If you would like to help us in giving back to the community, or have a way that Dare Daughters can be involved in your Giving project, please contact us at daredaughters@gmail.com or @daredaughters on Instagram & Facebook.

 

Be You Bravely

Psst … wanna know a secret?

Most of my life I have been afraid to have all of me known to the world, my flaws, quirks and struggles – just out there for all to see.

I know that I am not alone in this practice, but why do we do this to ourselves?

I remember from a young age that I understood that there are acceptable things for public and somethings that are best to be left for “private”. And while this makes sense for some things, at 30 I am realizing that I have allowed that philosophy to hold me back in some ways from Being Me.

So what does Be You Bravely actually look like?

Well, that will be different for each of us. In my own life it means being open about my personal journey with overcoming pornography, the challenges of being an emotionally hot mess most days, and having a deep desire to help others.

I have taken on the opportunities to speak about Sex, Relationships, Pornography and how God plays a part in all of it. This has allowed for other women to identify their own struggles with porn and for us to start having an honest conversation about these “Private topics”.

By no means is this easy or uncomplicated, but it’s more freeing to embrace who God made me to be. For we are all fearfully and wonderfully complex, and I would encourage you to embrace the complexity of who you are by Being You Bravely!

 

The Porn Struggle

I don’t know about you but growing up there were certain things that you just didn’t talk about. One of them being Pornography. Especially since that was a “boy’s issue”. I had the privilege of struggling through my own understanding of how my sexuality and my faith could fit together.

So, all throughout my teens and twenties I struggled with the power that pornography held over me. I had an unhealthy view of how my sexuality fit with my faith. I didn’t full comprehend that God created us as sexual beings – which means that all my sexual desires of wanting to be loved were normal, but I was filling that need in a negative way and it took a strong hold on me.

It filled my head with thoughts that sex wasn’t sacred and in turn had me seeking out online chat rooms and becoming addicted to pornography.

I understood all too well the struggle that Paul talks about in the New Testament, wanting to do the things that you know you should, but finding yourself doing the things you shouldn’t.

I can honestly say that it took the power of the Holy Spirit to cause me to confess what I’d been doing to 3 close college friends. Those women were fantastic as they prayed with me, withheld their judgement and found themselves confessing their own struggles.

Confession truly is good for the Soul!

The struggle is real and our world doesn’t make it easy but it is possible to overcome the power of porn. It starts with admitting your struggles to yourself and then to a trusted person in your life.

I have watched God open doors for me to encourage and challenge other women who are going through the same struggle and to know that they’re not alone. Let me repeat that … YOU ARE NOT ALONE!

I have been overjoyed that God has taken something that caused me to be so broken and turn it into something beautiful! 

The truly beautiful thing is that God can do this for you too, if you let him.

Selfie Struggle

93 million selfies are taken world wide each day. 

This presents an issue of solely focusing on how to prepare and present the external that we neglect the internal self.

It’s easier to solve a bad selfie issue then it is to sit down and assess what parts of  your life need a little t.l.c. but if we care about ourselves on any level we must.

I understand the vulnerability involved in putting your selfie out there for others to see. Trust me, I have struggled for years with not liking how I look in about 80 percent of the pictures that have been taken of me in my lifetime. But this mentality didn’t start to change until I started to address my internal self.

Before we take another selfie lets do ourselves a favor and check our hearts. Take an internal selfie and you will be surprised what you’ll find.

A few years ago I came across this verse:

 “Thank you for making me so wonderfully complex!
    Your workmanship is marvelous—how well I know it.” – Psalm 139:14

This verse encourages me to know that I was created as a complex being. Which means that there is more to me than what any selfie could capture. It also means that unlike a selfie that can be taken in a matter of seconds we are gonna need to give ourselves a little bit more time to understand the complex being that God created us to be.

So this is my dare to you– I dare you to ask God to show you what in yourself needs a little t.l.c and how you can better embrace the wonderfully complex being he’s made you to be.

Remember a dare requires action so let’s start taking some internal selfies!

Trust the Grueling Process

I hate that word … process.

See, when we dare to step into who God designed us to be, it will be one of the most difficult processes we go through.  It will require us to drop our understanding of what we should be like and involve almost a surgery like removal of anything in us that is not God-given or glorifying.

And let me tell you, it will hurt like hell.

I can say that because even this week I’ve been challenged to allow God to remove something in me that is not glorifying to him nor was it how he intended me to function.

Unfortunately, I have this habit of learning things the hard way. It comes from being stubborn and thinking that my way is right … always.  My family and dear friends can attest to this.I often need to be told something about 5 times before my mind can be changed, or convinced of something. This a terrible thing and yet I find myself stuck in this routine.

The beautiful thing is that God doesn’t just look at me and walk away with his hands up in the air saying, “I have had enough of her stubbornness!” or “She’s being difficult again!” No, he gently reminds me that His ways are not my ways and His ways are so much better. Then gives me the time and space to painfully realize this.

What a patient heavenly father I have, Praise Jesus!

All of this reminds me of Romans 8:28 “And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to his purpose for them.” See even though the process isn’t always pretty God is causing something good to come about.

So if you’re in a season that straight up feels painful, and hurts like hell remember that our amazing Father will cause everything to work together for good. It may mean dropping your stubbornness like me and letting God have the free reign to remove things that don’t belong so that you can embrace more of who He’s calling you to be and release who you think you need to be.

Trust the grueling process, God knows what he’s doing. I promise!